Its amazing how stuck we can get on things. How deep hurts can be driven if we let them. But isn't that the key? We have the let ourselves stay hurt. Every time I'm hurt by someone I think of Elder Bednars talk about choosing to not be offended. He said, "To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else." (And Nothing Shall Offend Them October 2006 General Conference) It can be so hard to choose not to be offended. To just move on. Especially when you want to be offended. When you want them to see that you're upset and hurt.
That also brings me back to something that my mom used to tell me when I would decide that I wanted to be unkind. She would hug me and tell me that she was sorry that I was hurt and then she would say "Its nice to be important but more important to be nice." I hated that saying sometimes. I also hated the saying that I've started using often. "Be big, don't belittle." Oh, joy.
But if I actually stop and listen to what the Spirit tells me, I know its the right thing to do. Sometimes it can be so hard though. So hard. That's when I have to pray with all my heart, since he knows how I feel. He knows exactly what is going on and exactly how to make me better for it. I will just have to do my best to be like Him.
There is this video called "Advice from Elder Busche" that you can find on Youtube. My favortie version is the one by ldsteencenter. In this talk by F Enzio Busche he gives a list of incredible advice. The advice he gives is depicted in the video. One of the lines he says is "If someone hurts you so much that your feelings seem to choke you, forgive and you will be free again." That line almost makes me cry every time. It really is better if we can learn to just LET IT GO! So that is what I am going to do. I am going to just LET IT GO!! And you should too. It certainly feels much better. :)